yougottabekitten

Just to bring some of you up to speed, my daughter lives with her dad during the week and with me on the weekends. She wants to reverse this so that she’s with me during the week and with him during the weekends. Those of you who know me from the old JS know that he’s going to do everything within his power to keep this from happening.

Last week, she told me, in tears, that when she asked him why he didn’t want her to live with me, his answer was, “I don’t want to pay for what I’m not getting.”

Not, “You’re my only daughter and I’ll miss you,” not even, “because I think I’m a better parent,” but “I don’t want to pay child support.”

Dickweed.

My lawyer stopped short of saying that it would be a “slam dunk” for me, but he didn’t forsee problems. I’m going to have him start drawing up the paperwork tomorrow, meaning that the shit should hit the fan no later than middle of next week.

My lawyer also said that he (my ex) will attempt to draw the process out for as long as possible in an attempt to keep from paying one dime more than he absolutely has to, but I was already expecting that.

Thing is, I think that she gets terribly lonely during the week. They live in a huge house, and he is basically never home. He’s treating her the way he always treated me, like there were many, many other things that were more important. In short, he’s always seen “going home” as a last resort, and so she ends up rattling around in that big house by herself. He won’t get her a pet, he rarely lets her have friends over, and he gives her grief whenever she brings home any grade lower than A.

He also sends her to a psychologist every week, which she hates and has told me is a total waste of time, and at the end of every month he sits in judgment of me, deducting half the cost of the psychologist, and whatever bullshit expenses he thinks I should split, and sending what’s left over instead of the full amount of the property settlement he’s supposed to send each month. So far, I’ve considered it a sort of “tax” that I pay to him to keep him from harassing me. But I’m really sick of it.

So, yeah.

I consider my Blogger blog as a part of my “legal defense fund,” so if you’re inclined to contribute by visiting and clicking on an ad or two, I will love you till the day I die.

I know the next few months will be painful, but I also think that it will lead to a much better situation for me and for my daughter.

Thanks for listening. Reading. Whatever.

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